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deborah_cHaving gone to Liz's sister J's church for a family event...
... listening to a long talk about uniqueness, not marginalising people, acceptance and inclusivity, and then watching the shocked look on the minister's face a few minutes into a conversation as he realised that I'd said my partner was J's sister, not her brother (whose existence would be deeply surprising to her mum :)
... having one of Liz's cousins say "I wasn't sure how I'd feel when I saw you, but when I did it just seemed right"
Me and my lack of self-confidence... The first of these really stems from the assumption that anyone who meets me is instantly going to be aware of my past. It's rather nice when something like this happens and reminds me that just maybe they might not realise! Of course, this leaves us with the little issue that the minister in question appears to think that Liz has divorced and taken up with a lesbian partner, which is not entirely true...
... listening to a long talk about uniqueness, not marginalising people, acceptance and inclusivity, and then watching the shocked look on the minister's face a few minutes into a conversation as he realised that I'd said my partner was J's sister, not her brother (whose existence would be deeply surprising to her mum :)
... having one of Liz's cousins say "I wasn't sure how I'd feel when I saw you, but when I did it just seemed right"
Me and my lack of self-confidence... The first of these really stems from the assumption that anyone who meets me is instantly going to be aware of my past. It's rather nice when something like this happens and reminds me that just maybe they might not realise! Of course, this leaves us with the little issue that the minister in question appears to think that Liz has divorced and taken up with a lesbian partner, which is not entirely true...
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Date: 2004-05-28 07:24 pm (UTC)Does it matter if they are? I hope tonight has helped convince you that your goal doesn't need to be (and probably shoudln't be) to deny your past. Whilst I'll freely admit that predujice (of all kinds) is widespread, it's far from universal; and by no means everyone is in any way disturbed by someone changing gender...
Come to the Calling sometime; noone will be in the least bit perturbed by your gender change...
-roy